What gives us the edge over others is learning from their mistakes or habits that have contributed to our lives. Having the opportunity to grow up with three older brothers, the I was gonna syndrome came out on several occasions. There were various chores that were expected to be done and were not, mysteriously fell under the excuse of “I was gonna do it.” This “I was gonna” category still may affect us today. My brothers, bless their hearts, had the I was gonna syndrome down to an art and science, and periodically I still hear it today.
From the fondest childhood memories of your past, you may have picked up good and bad qualities that have affected your practice and personal effectiveness today. Think about it – from your ability to confront issues, to over thinking something, to finishing unfinished projects, to waiting for the phone to ring, how do you handle these matters? Implementation of a marketing idea, training a new staff member, cleaning up clutter, simple remodeling job, buying a new piece of equipment, getting paperwork and chart notes completed, doing reports, finally taking care of those patients, over chatting, under chatting, not having a purpose, not having a mission statement, spending too much time on Ebay, coming to the office late, leaving the office early, and so on and so on, without a doubt we could add more to the list.
This year, work on the 12 most important things you want to improve in your office and your life. Don’t waste any time on what you don’t want, accentuate the positive and focus only on what you want to improve. We all have many traits that that are always a work in progress.
For instance, making sure everything is done at the end of the day, making staff members accountable for their duties, having practice improvement plans and adhere to it, staying off the computer unless it is absolutely necessary, complimenting the people that you work with, having a mission and purpose statement that defines you and your practice, and once again, the list goes on.
It is not just about the I was gonna syndrome but breaking the habits that continue to hold us back. Looking back at your family heritage, your family gave you far more good qualities, traits and habits than bad. Somehow, the bad habits such as the I was gonna syndrome stick out because they are the ones that we most want to change and strengthen. If this is one of the phrases that you use for an excuse to underachieve, it is time to change it from I was gonna to I am going to. By just putting a general statement out in the universe you don’t make an affirmation to achieve or create any thing unless you start your sentence out with I am going to.
Some of the most valuable gifts and lessons come from what we have learned from others. Families teach us not to be scared of hard work and if you want something, you have to work for it. They showed us how to value money and more importantly relationships. The importance of please and thank-you and the difference using good manners makes. We were taught early-on that honesty is the best policy and it is far better to give than receive. Some of this may sound a little outdated or hokey, but quite frankly, it is just good common sense that will help you not only in practice building, but to develop a strong foundation for the rest of your life, in or out of practice.
The most precious asset we have is our background…where we came from. Our families are the extension of our past and our future; the way we act, perceive, give, take and otherwise, are the reflection of where we were, where we are, and where we are going. This pertains to us as a profession. We are where we are because of who we are. When we stay together and agree on what is best for all of us, the profession or our familywill prosper.
Division is not an option. Just like a family in discussion, we may have differing opinions, but we are still family and each of us has to participate in what is best for all of us as a family.
So, if you still think we have things to do to improve our profession and make a difference in this world, please don’t look back and wish it was different because you were caught by the I was gonna syndrome.
